Last October, we moved the folks to Colorado because they were in their eighties and needed more help around the house. They moved in with me for a few weeks while my brothers-in-law made the house in Loveland move-in ready, building a ramp and setting up the furniture. Dad was failing in health and knew he would need the family close by to help care for mom. Their third son owned property with two houses on it, he lived in one and rented the other. Dad and Mom were going to be able to be independent, yet have family next door to check in on them daily.
Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease four years ago, after a fall and a hospitalization. Mom was agitated and walking the hospital corridor wanting to know who all the people were that were milling around. The nurses wound up restraining her to her bed and she was mad as hell! Imagine being tied down to the bed and not understanding why. Dad was not strong enough to help her when she insisted on making bad choices.